Six Quick Tips to Manage Any Transition
Last year I was invited to speak at the I AM Women’s Empowerment Conference. CEO, Lawyer, and philanthropist, Yaminah Childress, produces this amazing event every year. The purpose of the event is to provide a space for women to socialize, support each other’s businesses and empower each other through presentations, conversations and of course…mimosa’s! I was in the company of a bunch of dynamic women such as Dr. Bertina Banks, Deborah Anglin and Lori Wilcox. By the time I got up to speak I felt led to shift gears and conduct a visualization exercise instead. I promised the attendees I’d share my original thoughts and so here they are as this week’s blog.
My presentation was originally titled Six Quick Tips to Manage Any Transition. Here are the tips below:
- Create an exit strategy. When you find yourself in a space, relationship, job, lease, etc. that is not working towards your higher good, take a moment to pause. Make a mental note about what positive you can gain from the situation (time, money, life lessons) and then create a time line for exiting the situation. Make sure you have your ducks in a row. Often times in situations like this we panic.
- Have a vision. People say this all of the time and in my Life Design workshops I really break down the idea of having vision. For starters we want to know what we want just as passionately as we know what we don’t want. Ask yourself, how will I know when I’m happy? What will happiness or success look and feel like? Believe it or not for most of us this will take some reflection and introspection.
- Develop goals around your vision. I like the SMART goal system and use it in my coaching practice as well as leadership and life design workshops. SMART is an acronym which stands for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely. For more on SMART goals check out my Goals vs. Resolutions blog.
- Make time for change. One of my favorite expressions is, “If you don’t make time to work on your own dreams, someone will hire you to work on theirs.” Let me tell you there is TRUTH to that saying. You’re either working for you or working for someone else. Find an hour a day or two 30 minute blocks that you can dedicate to working on your goals. Faith without works is dead! You must do the work.
- Identify a support system. No one becomes successful alone. When you are stuck or anticipating a grand transition you’ll want the RIGHT people in your corner supporting you. Everything isn’t for everybody. Certain people can’t support you because your evolution is foreign to them. I read something once that said, “Some people, if they can’t see it for themselves, they can’t see it for you.” Sometimes even our parents and significant others can block our blessings because they can’t understand our journey. They don’t share our vision. You need a coach, a mentor and at the very least an accountability partner. Don’t know what an accountability partner is? Call me.
- Invest and support others. This is a step that many people overlook. When I walked into the event Saturday I put my things down and immediately went over the vendor areas. I had a small budget, but I sew a seed whenever I can. I supported the ladies that were there growing their businesses, because I need them to succeed. Every success that I have the slightest part of fills me. I want us all to win. I tell the universe that I am not a hater, but a supporter so that I can receive supportive energy in return. Check out my blog Invest! It’s the Golden Rule for more tips on the law of reciprocity and how to use it in your business.
I named this presentation Six Quick Tips to Manage Any Transition because I had a short period of time to present them, not because you do them quickly. Each tip takes time and reflection to institute, but I PROMISE if you just pick two of the tips today and do them for 21 days you’ll notice a big difference. Try it and then leave a comment and let me know what you think.
I love this stuff! If you are looking for a coach to help you manage your transition we should talk!
*This article was originally published in 2016.